As I was talking to a dear friend about love and falling for people, I was hit by an epiphany: You don’t have to fall in love with every sweet, someone-that-makes-you-all-ditsy, beautiful person out there. Its like shopping for flowers or stationary for me. I have this thing.. whenever I visit my local Staples, I find it excruciatingly difficult to hold my self back from buying a basket full of funky pens, colored envelopes, writing pads of all sorts, etc. Or when buying flowers, I tend to lose myself in all of the lovely colors of roses. In the end, I don’t walk out of the store with the entire stationary or flower aisle. I buy what suits my needs and what I like the most.
You don’t have to fall head over heels to pick something up. You can just pick it up and admire it. Just like we don’t buy every diamond that appeals to us, similarly as you grow you will meet people that you’re attracted to be it cause of their personality, the work they do, or their looks – but that does not mean you have to fall in love and/or marry them.
It is equally important to give yourself time to heal, especially if you have just come out of a broken relationship. No one’s going to stop you from looking around but just make sure you don’t fall head over heels for the next person that charms you. Give it and yourself time. In doing that, you’re honoring yourself and the one you admire.